Goldilocks and the three beds  

Naughtypursuit 51F  
1304 posts
1/6/2018 7:09 am
Goldilocks and the three beds

I am shopping for a new bed. I tend to buy a new bed every 7-8 years. I have read that the life of a good mattress is around 10 years, but they recommend replacing every 7-10 years.. I am sure the life of a mattress depends on the quality you originally bought and the use it has been put through.

There are many types of beds out there - the memory foam, innerspring, hybrids, foam and different variations within each type - ie the type of spring/coil.

I have tried out a few beds and have found one that I like in the memory foam category. It has a longer warranty and technology for cooling and I found it the most comfortable.

As I tried out the foam and memory foam beds I wondered about how these beds perform during Sex? I have the feeling that it may hinder some activities. I have read some reviews but you can't really trust what you read online...

Have you had sex in a foam or memory foam bed and how was it? Any Issues?

Naughtypursuit 51F  
2186 posts
1/6/2018 7:10 am

Inquiring minds want to know.....

40Deuce 42M
5727 posts
1/6/2018 7:13 am

My only issue with memory foam is that I found it gets super hot - I have had no issues with the sexy sexy sex but then again I don't do a ton of freaky stuff

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redrockrascal 60M
20177 posts
1/6/2018 7:22 am

I've heard that foam beds can get hot for some people too. But that could partly the individual's chemistry.

Also, don't trust what you read online - unless I say it

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Naughtypursuit replies on 1/6/2018 8:47 am:
I believe everything you say Red....

niceman10 52M
18 posts
1/6/2018 7:28 am


throatscock 91M

1/6/2018 7:32 am

Serta, Serta ,Serta. I have one. !4 years old and as firm as the day it was made.

Naughtypursuit replies on 1/6/2018 8:43 am:
Actually the one I like is a serta memory foam mattress with cooling technology...... thank you

VenusRedux2 44F
518 posts
1/6/2018 7:38 am

I too had the heat problem. It's not just a little warmer, it is marinating-in-your-own-juices overnight hot. But that was before they started adding the cooling technology. So take it for what it's worth.

Latex foam is better than memory foam. It lasts longer and is cooler. I had a latex foam pillow and it was the best thing ever. But latex foam isn't as easy to find.

It does take some getting used to. For a while, I had trouble moving on it, my hands and elbows just kept sinking into it. I became Will Smith in Men in Black II, in that scene where he falls on the tubes. You get used to it though. My husband has never complained (but then again, he prefers a soft bed and I prefer the firmest thing known to mankind). After the first few weeks, you naturally adapt and don't even notice it anymore. It's not like sex requires acrobatics. Memory foam isn't an issue any more than any new bed will naturally feel different.

Even with memory foam, there are different levels of softness. So you still have to find the one most comfortable for you. And once you do that, there's not much difference between that and an inner spring mattress, despite what the commercials would have you believe. Thus memory foam is overrated.

Next time we need a mattress we're going with a Sleep Number. Not so much because I'm sold on the Sleep Number system, but rather because if I don't like the hardness/softness I can adjust it afterwards and not have to worry about picking exactly the right one and feel stuck with it for 15 years.

Hope that helps

Naughtypursuit replies on 1/6/2018 8:48 am:
Never tried a sleep number nor one of those moving beds. I should take a look at them and what kind of warranty they come with the technology...

Thank you

Real_meet69 44M
16 posts
1/6/2018 7:42 am

Get a sex swing for specialist activities.😋

Naughtypursuit replies on 1/6/2018 8:42 am:
do you need an engineering degree to install a swing?

TicklePlease 51F  
12161 posts
1/6/2018 8:13 am

I hedged my bets and bought a traditional innerspring mattress but put a memory foam (yes the cooling technology really does work!!) topper on it. Best of both worlds. Having sex on them just requires a little bit of a change in style.... there's less bounce but it's not like boinking in taffy.

Naughtypursuit replies on 1/6/2018 8:42 am:
Thank you, happy to know the cooling technology works....

HamburgDave2 75M
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1/6/2018 8:37 am

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bigblackman21221 48M
4093 posts
1/6/2018 9:31 am

Have you had sex in a foam or memory foam bed and how was it?

Yes, no difference that I can tell.
It's better than the floor. HAHA!!!

Any Issues?

When it comes to sex, none.

I'd buy a traditional mattress and get a memory foam add on to put on top of it.

UrBedbreaker 45M
4 posts
1/6/2018 9:32 am

We love having sex in ours takes a licking and keeps on ticking

voyeur2017 56M
587 posts
1/6/2018 9:54 am

I reference this review of best mattress for sex:

Caveat ....a good mattress can't compensate for a bad sex partner... but at least you will sleep good afterward ~~~

wd40w 66M
6985 posts
1/6/2018 4:51 pm

I'll volunteer...To test yours out with ya...I haven't had the pleasure yet...Slept in a Hammock for two months once...Water Beds were fun...Pushed one out a second story window once...Recorded it for a class...Wish I still had that recording..."Where there is a will...There is a way..." Workarounds are the staple of life...

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wantaplay8 66M
5607 posts
1/6/2018 4:51 pm

I have a hybrid memory foam mattress with what must be cooling technology. The mattress is never hot, rolling over or moving does take some different ways of moving compared to a regular mattress. All the mattresses have different life spans and all mattresses come with a maintenance guide. This mattress cost more than a car in the 1970s and whom would have thought of making mattress payments! After getting this bed, which sleeps fine, I would have preferred spending less and replacing more often. This mattress better last at least 10 years to be worth the money I spent. No bounce back for hump fun.
The store where I bought the mattress had a sleep test bed...Salesman, "the test bed says you need one of these two mattresses!" yepper. sheesh

mc_justmc 59M  
4959 posts
1/6/2018 5:49 pm

I had a memory foam top on my spring/coil bed. I hated it. I love sex on the corner of a spring/coil bed with a low bed stand.

azriel1970 48M
25854 posts
1/7/2018 5:32 am

I had a memory foam one that I ended up only using for a year. IT sucked for sex. You ended up just sinking in it. I have a traditional innerspring which works good. I only have had sex on it once Ha ha but it was way better.

I am looking at getting a memory foam topper and see how that works. I would love to hare how your new mattress works.

lordjack1957 61M  

1/7/2018 5:32 am

They all work for me... if they don't squeak... too loud. Seriously though , memory foam much better for sleeping that sex.


Triniblak 28M
2 posts
1/7/2018 6:14 pm

i would like you on my bed babe

1183maybee 58M/57F
68 posts
1/7/2018 7:11 pm

latex is hot on women....juss sayin

1183maybee 58M/57F
68 posts
1/7/2018 7:17 pm

Well Naughty seeing as your already super hot n sexy go for the cooling technology .
ps i am available for testing them out any time after 5 during the week weekends i will start early and finish up real late ...wink wink

1183maybee 58M/57F
68 posts
1/7/2018 7:19 pm

lets start with the firmest bed Naughty and work are way to the pillow tops

1tongue4yall 60M
2140 posts
1/8/2018 5:04 am

when we got a new bed a few years back(upgrading from a '70s water bed) we did a lot a checking things out. we went with a regular mattress with the plush top, not ultra plush though. it was like the memory foam, very restrictive when it comes to moving or rolling over or anything.
so keep that in mind when purchasing. we go a serta but not the expensive ones, it was like five hundred bucks with the box springs.

citizen4722 61M  
62713 posts
1/9/2018 4:00 pm

Hi NP,
I've recently gone back to a double bed after sleeping in a single. I have a foam mattress topper which is great for my back but it does tend to slide around a lot!

lindoboy100 56M
20227 posts
1/13/2018 3:04 am

Ah McSuit, a guid new year to ye m'dear hope ye had a good un!

Sorry, cannae offer any advice on the mattress front........other than I've heard the hybrids are best all rounders.

Wake up and hold yer noses.........

author51 56F  
77590 posts
1/15/2018 1:35 am

I also have a traditional box spring and mattress but added memory foam on top of it..I like the fact that it does not squeak or bounce much during sex yet I have not had sex on it in quite a I did find it as hot as the sex I last had on it though as I do not have the cooling technology to go with it....

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carmelvegas 54M  
7 posts
2/13/2018 1:56 pm

Naughty Naughty ,

Happy Valentines day ! Every time i look at that conglomerate of Bras you have i just go F-ing nuts ! " back to the lecture at hand, Perfection is perfected" Hmm talking from experience here foam gel top for cooling , you get a more direct push when on foam cause the body molds itself into position ! Just saying i dig it !! ahahhahhahahaha Benefits no bed noise ,traction !

Wantingsexymind2 49F  
12703 posts
3/2/2018 1:52 pm

I think my next bed will be a numbers bed simply because of the convenience of being able to adjust without having to buy a new bed. I know two couples who have one and they love it because one likes it hard, the other likes it soft! I have not looked at them lately but I believe they are quite expensive.

If I were to buy a bed on a cheaper scale I'd buy a very firm mattress and use a memory foam topper like I have now...the reason is because it is removable so not a permanent feature on the bed. They are so cheap to buy now and I'd recommend getting the cooling feature. My memory foam topper is 4.5 inches and does not have the cooling is hot in the summer season but wonderfully warm during the cold season.

The only sex I have had on my current memory foam is with myself and I have had no issues riding my favourite dildoes even with a sink factor.

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FallsGuy2100 64M
90 posts
3/10/2018 7:19 pm

let me know when you need a bed hunting partner .. we can test them out in the shop ..ha ha .. you gorgeous woman

proteus_2a 53M
7302 posts
3/13/2018 2:27 am

No problems from the Memory Foam Mattress, apart from the fact that recently it depicts a strange loss of memory of sexual acts... lol

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Naughtypursuit replies on 3/13/2018 4:44 am:
Lol.. thank you

bdoctor1956 62M  
5 posts
5/10/2018 5:26 am

If you get a memory foam, make sure you get a mattress cover. Reduces the heat issue, but more important....a memory foam will retain and absorb fluids. And they don't call them memory foam mattress for no reason. They remember....and remind you.

Naughtypursuit replies on 5/10/2018 8:47 am:
I bought the firmer memory foam one with a guaranteed mattress cover. Its got the far I love it and its been 3 months....

Thank you for your response

Paulxx001 62M
9958 posts
5/14/2018 7:45 am

hmmm Interesting Q that since u posted this, you've probably made your decision. Right ? I've tried foam and I didnt like it. for sex - that is - too soft. I prefer a harder surface . . . But that's just me. So ????? What did you end up buying and how's it working out ?

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Naughtypursuit replies on 5/14/2018 12:39 pm:
I bought the firm foam with clima cool and I love it... so far no issues

Naughtypursuit 51F  
2186 posts
5/23/2018 8:15 am

I did get the full foam with cooling technology...its fantastic.

Dragon653 66M
26 posts
6/8/2018 3:29 pm

I'm a firm believer in the sleep number beds...I've had one for 25 years or more

CreativeDom4u 59M
4 posts
6/13/2018 11:52 am

I bought a sleep number bed it is cool can firm the matress or soften it for sleeping bed i have ever owned hands down

lickurlilly1 58M
47 posts
6/16/2018 5:27 am

I have a memory foam and luv it. I got my for free it was never slept in someone had it in the guest room and they moved and did not want to take the whole bed system with it. It is a firm bed which I like and it is a pillow top. I live in FL and had no problems with it being hot. They do make a pillow top on both sides which I suggest you should buy as you can do a full flip and rotate the bed so it will last longer (my resort hotel experience comes in handy). I can only spin my mattress but hey I got a beautiful grey padded bed for free just had to take apart and reassemble.

_trouble51 53M
15 posts
6/16/2018 11:18 am

i like my pillowtops

nbfunman69 50M
58 posts
6/17/2018 9:41 am

mine is memory foam and I have goose down feather topper...…… I love mine …………. when your strapping someone down, just put a pillow under their butt ?*

CaptainCock1 65M  
3 posts
6/27/2018 9:06 am

tempurpedic, I like firm and it's lasted over 20 years. We'll need a comparison study

endiluvscurves 49M
31 posts
8/9/2018 1:24 pm

body chemistry and the temperature of the room may cause an ice in warmer climate but in the winter time, you may want the additional heat

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