Question Time  

Lonely2518 54F  
22 posts
3/15/2019 10:09 pm
Question Time


Why are some people so phony? Why do they treat you like a friend for a few days,then out of the blue they don't even acknowledge you? Does anyone have answers to any of these? Let me know what you think.
I had just experienced this. I thought I had a friend for about a week. I,to the best of my knowledge,did nothing wrong. Now the person won't even acknowledge I exist. No more texts or messages of any kind. What happened? I really confused. Can anyone help to understand this please and thank you.

Lonely2518 54F  
89 posts
3/18/2019 7:50 pm

I am so glad for all of your responses.


WncWildguy 60M  
1 post
3/17/2019 6:33 pm

I'm going to assume it's a he...then he's probably married, looking for some extra, but not a relationship.

If it's a she, it's probably a he in disguise, just looking for cybersex and nothing more.

Sorry that this has happened to you. But it is quite common...even for us guys out there.

Don't stop looking...

R


Lonely2518 replies on 3/17/2019 7:41 pm:
Yea,I tend to agree that it's probably just cybersex and nothing more. It just kinda frustrated me because even his wife acted like she was fine with the us being friends. Thanks for your answer.

s2ndegree 60M  
8695 posts
3/16/2019 1:42 am

This is the third post I've read about this topic.
What you all had in common was a profile with one sentence
and you all were married!

Using more than all the road!


Lonely2518 replies on 3/17/2019 7:42 pm:
Yea,true. But why say we are friends in the first place?

HedonicHeathen 51M
177 posts
3/16/2019 1:39 am

I could answer that question in as deep a topic manner as you can imagine combining high grade edumacated B.S. from desperate fields of inquiry. The problem is ... you are gonna hate the answer and never want to see my posts again.
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You might think 'he is being very presumptuous and egotistical' and yes I am, but from what you relay you describe getting a new friend 'for a weak' and then the new friend just stopped responding ... I'd suggest without going into all the how that the subtext of your approach toward this person was dismissing, suggestive of that person not having a voice or presence, and so quickly moved to make sure he had no point of view or context in your life ... which is very easy to do online ... or at least convince yourself that this has happened.
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Others here may say there are 100s of reasons as to why this kind of behavior may occur ... and they are technically correct. Why did the chicken cross the road some ask .. when the bottom reason is to have his motives questioned, at least, for the person being asked. Said person may spend a lot of time thinking about the chicken and not the person who asked and sent them off on this task - and it becomes a task when there no line to apply a punch to.
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Likewise, what good are all these 'other' options if you yourself want a different behavior. So even if 'they' didn't lose focus or they don't 'miss' you or whatever permutation you seek or want to avoid ... what you would want to focus on your own behaviors and be the best/kindatrying/there/worst/bitch you can be and focus on what you really can change: yourself.
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I realize that you did not at all ask if it was something about you ... and that would be considered rude to say as much, but focusing on their decision is not going to satisfy you or bring pleasure, unless of course ... it does.


Lonely2518 replies on 3/17/2019 8:03 pm:
First of all, I am always the best me I can be with anyone and everyone. Secondly, I just don't understand why if I am the person's friend,why I wasn't answered and told what I did or didn't do right. If there is something I did wrong, then why not give me a chance to fix the wrong. If there is something I can fix,that is. Lastly,none of the questions I have am I really focusing on. I just really wanted some opinions of others to see what might be said. After all, this is why I named my blog Curiosity Corner. Thanks for your response.

ltrskr 70M  
3049 posts
3/16/2019 1:26 am

The best rule for this site is when they disappear, just move on!

"As onward thru life you go, watch the donut and not the hole!"


Lonely2518 replies on 3/17/2019 8:04 pm:
Yea, I am. Thanks for your response.

AliOrbit 62F  
315 posts
3/16/2019 12:37 am

Yes I have had that experience.
Occasionally I will chat with women and that happens with them sometimes.


Lonely2518 replies on 3/17/2019 8:05 pm:
It does to me too. Thanks.

meatrocket1418 28M
11 posts
3/15/2019 11:19 pm

awesome post thank you for sharing


Lonely2518 replies on 3/17/2019 8:06 pm:
Thanks.

GuavaJuce 25M
10 posts
3/15/2019 11:13 pm

haha yeaahhh prolly just ghosted you


Lonely2518 replies on 3/17/2019 8:06 pm:
Yea. Probably.

PAWAPh 42M
5039 posts
3/15/2019 11:05 pm

I Have Experienced That.

Jack


Lonely2518 replies on 3/17/2019 8:07 pm:
I hate that for you.

mageejaff 51M  
22 posts
3/15/2019 10:53 pm

happens a lot it seems. No good answer on that. I know that no one really has to give you an answer on why they stop chatting, but it would be nice to at least say not interested any more.....my 2 cents worth....
good luck and have fun


Lonely2518 replies on 3/17/2019 8:08 pm:
Yea,thanks I would have liked at least a not interested.

Paulxx001 61M
6573 posts
3/15/2019 10:52 pm

That's a tough question to answer.
Does he live close to you?
Perhaps he's a pretender, and just into chatting and stuff and was nervous.
Many people here hide behind their keyboards.
Not all people want to get close to anyone who is attracted to them They get nervous...
Don't worry about it... So many fish in the sea. You'll be fine
Just take things nice and easy . and listen, to what they say. With a good ear and eye.. you'll figure this whole thing out. You seem sweet enough that, some man will find you. And you'll find him. Don't jump, at every nibble.
Happy Friday.... 💚😍😘

Words are like meatloaf- they can be sculpted into any shape you choose.
She asked me a question.Handcuffs Or Silk Scarves


Lonely2518 replies on 3/17/2019 8:10 pm:
Thanks. I haven't given up and will find the right person who wants to actually meet in person.

agedfun1 71M  
153 posts
3/15/2019 10:46 pm

You have been what they term as ghosted. For whatever reason your "friend" decided to stop talking with you. S/He may have gotten sick, decided really had nothing in common with you or decided you were not the right one due to age, distance or otherwise. Instead of saying goodbye your "friend" just stopped contacting you.


Lonely2518 replies on 3/17/2019 8:12 pm:
Yea, I get it. It's going to happen again I have no doubt but I am loving all these responses. Thanks for yours.

shadowtoo69 63M  
448 posts
3/15/2019 10:12 pm

His wife found out??


Lonely2518 replies on 3/17/2019 8:14 pm:
The wife knew from the beginning,but not worried about it anymore. Thanks.

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