A second chance?  

BendMeOver278 28F  
1218 posts
1/27/2019 7:13 am
A second chance?

Let's say you chat with someone and plan to meet for coffee, but they never show up and don't send a text before you get there...
Do you ever give the person who stands you up for a first meet a second chance?

Let's assume you like them and were really looking forward to getting together.
Yes, I will make plans to see them again.
Yes, but only if they give a good reason why.
No, I will not make plans to see them again.

BendMeOver278 28F  
2362 posts
1/27/2019 7:14 am

My answer is yes, but only if the person gives a decent and believable excuse.
But maybe I'm just a sucker.

bazokajoe86 55M
210 posts
1/27/2019 7:23 am

My answer is no. I made the effort to see them and they didn't make the effort.History has a way of repeating itself.

BendMeOver278 replies on 1/27/2019 7:28 am:
The history reliving itself is a really good point. Fool me once thing, I suppose.

CleavageFan4U 62M  
55636 posts
1/27/2019 7:28 am

Though I voted the second option, I'd add the caveat that they had to have told me in advance, not left me there waiting and late came with some lame excuse. How long does it take to send a text?

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BendMeOver278 replies on 1/27/2019 7:35 am:
This is a they left you there thing.
I sort of assume it's not as big of a deal if plans change before the time and date of them anyways. Maybe I'll make that poll sometime.

lickeyzsplit 56M
623 posts
1/27/2019 7:31 am

Have to say yes ! With a reasonable excuse only once ! Life can very busy and sometimes hectic !! If it happened a second time it would be Fuck Off ! My 2 cents !!

BendMeOver278 replies on 1/27/2019 7:35 am:
Yes, a second chance is all I'd give too.

CleavageFan4U 62M  
55636 posts
1/27/2019 7:40 am

BendMeOver278 replies on 1/27/2019 9:35 am:
This is a they left you there thing.
I sort of assume it's not as big of a deal if plans change before the time and date of them anyways. Maybe I'll make that poll sometime.


Leaving me hanging is an immediate end. Hell I dumped an EXISTING fuck-buddy when she did THAT - just no excuse.

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BendMeOver278 replies on 1/27/2019 7:45 am:
Well, that changed things, huh?

hrdallnght4u 62M  
4653 posts
1/27/2019 7:41 am

He would have to have a very realistic excuse for not wanting to meet such
a Sexy Lady as You...

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BendMeOver278 replies on 1/27/2019 7:46 am:
Things happen
I try to be understanding

harbor112 59M
701 posts
1/27/2019 7:56 am

My answer is yes. Because you never know what happens at the last minute. No matter how well you plan to be there. As you know things happens.

bitchkitty2017 66F  
2670 posts
1/27/2019 8:08 am

nope anyone only gets a kick at the can once and if they cant take a second to even say why then its them sol...I waited one night 3 hours for someone to show up and have been stood up 17 times in the year I have been here without so much as a explaination or kiss my ass..no one gets a second chance..trust no one..

Paulxx001 61M
5895 posts
1/27/2019 8:18 am

I said - No.
The excuse - not to text- would have to be, extraterrestrial abduction, for me to think twice. 👽🤔

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ilovetoshow4u 42M
44 posts
1/27/2019 10:54 am

If I like them, I'd give it a second chance

papis_baby_girl 42F  
4905 posts
1/27/2019 10:56 am

one and done...

it was important to me to show up, not important to them so we're not compatible.

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superbjversion2 63F  
14363 posts
1/27/2019 11:54 am

Sure, I'd give him a second chance .... just as soon as he comes out of his coma.

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Lustfulpassion68 46M
105 posts
1/27/2019 12:22 pm

and it better be a damned good reason

citizen4722 61M  
60394 posts
1/27/2019 1:02 pm

Yes, if there's a perfectly good reason

s2ndegree 60M  
8599 posts
1/27/2019 5:01 pm

Another chance? That would be settling for someone
who didn't have enough courtesy to cancel and on what,
the most impressionable date.

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Superman4695 33M
80 posts
1/27/2019 5:47 pm

It would have to be a really good reason as for why they could spend 30 seconds to text. I have gotten my phone was broke or I didn't pay my bill from friends and sometimes wonder about those. Yeah people forget stuff, get busy with something they find more important than you maybe, or something bad/unexpected happens or they might not be in the mood to be social. Honesty would be refreshing sometimes.

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CowboyandaGeek 37M/33F  
280 posts
1/27/2019 8:33 pm

Nope. No one has time for that.

Yours_4A_knight 54M  
1037 posts
1/27/2019 11:01 pm

being that I get so few women who even respond to me like I am a person if she stood me up gave no reason but was still willing to communicate and offered the possibility of a redo I would will to consider it

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DustyBobblehead 32M
139 posts
1/28/2019 5:25 am

I said yes, but only if they have a good reason why they stood me up. However, I have always been more trusting than most, I have even been called naive. So maybe advice from me is not what you need, but I believe in second chances.

allnitelong2063 55M
128 posts
1/28/2019 7:30 am

Yes but they better have a good excuses

misterflirty4u 40M  
51 posts
1/28/2019 12:22 pm

I mean, this is life. Shit happens. However, you can always send a quick text or email because if you don't, then you weren't worried about how missing your meetup would make the other person think about you.

AlexMitz688 26M
12 posts
1/28/2019 12:46 pm

Yes give a second chance, but only if they provide a valid and plausible excuse.

FresnoWoman 48F
259 posts
1/28/2019 3:51 pm

Nope, for me, a no-show is one strike, he's out.

NudeDon69 49M  
1434 posts
1/28/2019 6:15 pm

I would give her a second chance; if she had a good excuse.

Because sometimes life throws you for a major loop, and you can only hope the other person will be understanding, that you need to get up and brush yourself off before you can hold a cup of coffee, or tea.

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Shots30 43M  
2114 posts
1/28/2019 6:31 pm

Pretty much it's one and done for me. I try to be respectful and I would expect others to be as well. If they can't be, then they don't deserve my time, Even with a good excuse and no matter how much I was looking forward to meeting.

wiscofwbplz 38M
8 posts
1/28/2019 10:01 pm

Ha the one and only ,other, vote
it depends how hot said rude person is and how forgiving of a mood I am in and by that I mean desperado's horny
Would fuck that cup of coffee right about now

DoctorBooty 38M  
6182 posts
1/29/2019 6:18 am

If you no-show with me you're out, unless you texted me quickly letting me know you couldnt make it.

I have better use of my time and other women to meet who won't no-show on me.

fun2bhadsoon 51M
17 posts
1/29/2019 7:55 am

a second chance is always a option, but the reason for missing the first, needs to be plausible. Happens a second time, never again!

LordMandrakeJB 62M  
240 posts
1/29/2019 2:20 pm

Actually had this happen to me a few years ago. Was supposed to meet her after almost two months of flirting. No showed. I've always been a one and done. 4 hours later I get a text from her along with a picture and apology. Foot in a brand new cast.... She slipped on the ice and broke her ankle on her way to the date. I got to sign the cast two days later.

robnuotatore 49M
7 posts
1/29/2019 4:07 pm

definitely no, at least they have a really good reason

pleagain 53M  
48 posts
1/29/2019 5:01 pm

may give them a second chance but ive been burnt so much

shoals 34M  
18 posts
1/29/2019 5:05 pm

Sorry, no second chances. Period.

Ghosting reveals that he/she clearly does not respect your time. Ghosting also means he/she has lied to you. It would be foolish to assume from that point on that he/she has any respect for you at all. We all know where relationships built on disrespect and lies end up, don't we?

Move on. Find someone better. Let them waste someone else's time.

10timz10 100M
15 posts
1/29/2019 10:35 pm

i realy feel like we all diserve a second chance

loverboy1964999 54M  
41 posts
1/30/2019 4:04 am

I would give them a second chance but they would have to have a good reason.

AZ60ish 60M  
23 posts
1/31/2019 9:14 am

First meetings are always somewhat iffy, things happen, schedules change, and especially if trying to be DISCREET, sometimes a meeting doesnt happen. I like to give a person a sex cond chance, especially if they are sexy and turn me on! LOL!

PyschoLoco 55M
1516 posts
1/31/2019 6:51 pm

Fuck no. I only ghost women after I least had the decency to meet them

Standards are people too.....kinda

Jdhot4Tg 56M  
60 posts
1/31/2019 11:32 pm

MMM she would have to come up with a good excuse why she didn't show up

aray2be 59M  
26 posts
2/1/2019 9:21 am

Being harsh and unforgiving never ever leads to anything positive. Life is too complicated for simple up or down decision making

Celestaxxx 47F  
2 posts
2/1/2019 2:17 pm

It happened to me because I was using my phone and tablet for IM messages. The texts didn't cross over.

Wonder167 52F  
1791 posts
2/1/2019 5:36 pm

I said no, but if there was a verifiable accident, then of course, one can understand something like that.

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Trio6965 53M  
17 posts
2/1/2019 6:07 pm

No way, I have no time to loose, too bad.

snowey8 63F  
36 posts
2/3/2019 12:50 am

I would give second chance if they had a good reason////////

badboy3819652 53M
20 posts
2/4/2019 1:43 pm

my answer is yes but must have good excuse and a sexy ass like yours

IVFalternative 47M
245 posts
2/5/2019 3:10 pm

No show means all the burden of the next meet is on them. I won't ask for a meet or go out of my way to meet. Best they can hope for is that I'll let them know when I'm at the pub and that they find me before I meet someone else.

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engcumman 48M
18 posts
2/6/2019 11:51 am

I think you have to allow for the fact that people's lives don't always work out the way they had planned. If shit has happened then them not turning up is probably not the most important thing and being difficult about it can make you look petty.

That said in this day and age with phones in everyone's hands really a message shouldn't be too much to manage.

NotDesper8Horny 56M
12 posts
2/7/2019 3:00 am

Yes, but only if they give a good reason why.

CuriousCpl6774 51M/44F  
53 posts
2/9/2019 11:43 am

Our honest answer is, we’re not sure. Nobody who has stood us up has ever contacted us again. So, it would depend. Generally, we’re pretty friendly and reasonably forgiving. However, we would not make first contact with someone who stood us up.

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couple4fun_STL 51M/42F
1 post
2/10/2019 6:53 am

I said no, because not showing up is one thing, but no text or phone is not excusable.

Cumhookup69 25M
1 post
2/11/2019 1:27 am

Well let me get it a try and take you out somewere

coffeeaddiction7 37M
13 posts
2/11/2019 12:19 pm

If there was a good excuse/reason then maybe a reschedule could happen but generally that's a no go. Being stood up is never fun.

cutehubby1967 51M
8 posts
2/15/2019 2:23 am

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